Don't Worry, It Sucks For Everybody (Part 1)

I sometimes hear from people that they envy the advantages that another group of people have when it comes to sexual relationships, whether that group is male or female, straight or queer. While I have also in the past held many of the same viewpoints, I've now matured to believe in a asymmetrical but universally sucky (and sometimes awesome) experience of relationships between sexes, sexual orientations, gender identities, and BEYOND


Cis-gender-normative Heterobros

One of the main reasons that it sucks to be a male in relationships because sexual viability for men for many people is very closely tied to economic status, which is kind of a shitty system thanks to humongous propaganda campaigns to deceive the American public and complex efforts to keep wealth hereditary. For a lot of women, increasing their erotic value has primarily to do with exploring their creative and aesthetic side. For a lot of men, it has to deal with sticking their hands in the rotting carcass of the American economy and hoping to scoop out pennies.

Another reason that it sucks to be a man is there are numerous factors creating a higher supply of male attention than demand, especially when it comes to short term sexual encounters. Some of these reasons include: A status inequality(Men are rewarded with status for short term sexual encounters by and large while women have their status decreased), many more men feeling safe initiating such encounters compared to women, less repression of men's sexual interest, different tendencies in choosing 'quantity' over 'quality' between genders with women more ever choosing quality, a lot of sexual interaction being biased age-wise between genders (With a wide spectrum of men in ages focusing their attention on a narrow spectrum of women in ages).

However, most of what creates a higher supply of male attention is also what makes being male pretty cool. Men's status largely has no where to go but up from engaging in short term sexual encounters. Men are made to feel more safe in initiating sexual encounters, whether from sexual assault or domestic violence. The church still wants to convince you that your penis is bad, but it is not given nearly the bad treatment as those awful vagina monsters. Heterosexual Men are much less pressured about being 'too old' compared to heterosexual women. Even the focus on economic class in men has its upsides as it provides a way for some men to increase their erotic capital by pursuing their passion (Assuming they escape lower class death trap) whereas for women the options are diminished somewhat.

Most commercial sex enterprises are designed for heterosexual men.

Men who are successful in relationships are able to achieve some things more easily than women. One example being one-dick harems. Society as a whole looks on such arrangements much more favorably than one-vagina harems. Because of the barriers for women entering into new relationships (Status concerns, safety concerns), harem-babe positions are more likely to appeal to women than to men.

Coming up next, the ups and downs of being the girl (I label things to make myself excited.)