Sexual competition

In some ways, sexuality may involve competition.  People have choices of who they can be with (Especially women.). People maintain standards of who they want to be with (Especially women). Sometimes, these standards are dependent on the available options. This introduces competition into sexuality.

Unfortunately, many people become overly fixated on the element of competition in sexuality. I would suggest the cause is attempting to shift into stuff that masculine western society does not understand well (sex, love, happiness, relationships) to something that masculine western society does understand (Competition, distribution of resources)

It is true that competition may be an obstacle in achieving one's sexual desires. I just strongly believe that its existence as an obstacle is overly fixated on, and besides, the best perspective is to be competition-agnostic.

The best way to compete as a source of sexual/romantic attention is to provide value. Coincidentally, the best way to exist as a cooperative free love monkey is to provide value. And thus, it doesn't matter if any competition exists, when the ideal strategy is to provide the best value that you can.

The alternative is to be destructively competitive, to attempt to diminish a rival's competitive ability. This almost certainly leads to lowering one's own value, either through projecting an attitude of scarcity, being pushy, rude, or being dishonest. Even if this way an effective way of competing with one person, it’s a poor way of dealing with competition from more than one source.